Sometimes, people ask me what they can do to help me. They hear my story. They respond by asking what they can do to support me.
The most important thing is to help ourselves before we can help anybody else. Otherwise, what we offer is a useless help.
Sorry to be so straightforward. For us, for me, for you and me, we cannot help anyone if we do not work on ourselves first.
I cannot love anybody if I do not love myself. I cannot take care of myself if I do not love myself. I cannot take care of anybody if I do not love myself. So, how can I take care of my son if I do not take care of myself? Right?
I mean, so, it is like when you are on a plane. If you are about to crash, what do you do? Do you put on your life vest first? Of course! Then, you put the life vest on your kids. Those are the rules. That is what they tell you every time you get on a plane.
Why is that?
Right! It is because you must start with yourself.
So, for me, the best help you can do for me is to put in practice the Dharma. You know, His Holiness the Dalai Lama talks about this. Lama Zopa talks about this. Ling Rinpoche talks about this. Geshe Gendun Choephel talked about this. Geshe Tenzin Namdak talks about this. All these amazing gurus, teachers who embody Dharma, that is what they are talking about.
So, to follow a lifestyle that is not only helping you to improve but is creating the cause and the circumstances to be an example for other people to, also, improve in their life, for me, that is the best help you can do. You know that is how I see you, helping yourself so you can help others. I know you can do this.
I am grateful that I am here. I am grateful that I can communicate with you like this. It is an honor but I do not follow very well what I am saying. I am still searching. I am still trying to understand. I am still trying to know myself.
Meanwhile, I am, also, trying my best to be of service. So, I am happy to be here with you. I am happy to be able to be part of this beautiful conversation. Thank you!
Just remember, to be of benefit to anyone, you must start with yourself.