Many of us grow up in a materialistic society, in a capitalistic system. If you achieve the American dream – or whatever word you want to use to mean success – it does not matter if you step on other people’s toes to get there, you know? In many ways, this is how we are educated.
Just because you are super rich, everybody admires you even though you may treat your employees so badly. Maybe your workers are poorly paid, barely being able to cover expenses, and have a reasonable quality of life.
When it is like that, it is very hypocritical. I mean if you have so much money, you should take care of your employees, right? That would be the very reason to be kind to your employees because they are the ones who helped you to get those riches in the first place. You have a responsibility to them. You would think that would be the normal thing to do, right?
If you consider society, there is an aspect that is sick. Why? Even war is legal! How can war be legal? Does that make any sense? War for peace. “Oh, we are waging war for peace!”
I do not know. This is difficult to think about. War. How is war legal? How is that possible? How did that happen? How do you even get there?
If you study history, you see that for thousands of years humans have been slaughtering each other. It has been like that for as long as we remember.
Perhaps when it was a matriarchy, it was not so much like that – hopefully. Yeah, it became like that when it was patriarchy. “Here, my son, take this spear. Show him who is boss!” You know – that concept.
We should talk a little here about the concept of machismo, and, also, about the education of gender equality. Domestic violence and sexual assault are the most terrible things.
I think, sometimes, when a man expresses himself in a very macho way, showing aggressive pride in his masculinity, he is not “Manly”, at all. I think that person lacks appropriate masculinity. He acts like that because he feels he must show physical superiority. Then he thinks, “I am going to impose that.” This is toxic masculinity. It is harmful not just to women but to men, themselves, and society overall.
I think this attitude is a lack of masculinity, a lack of self-worth, a lack of empathy. It shows insecurity. In Spanish, we say, “prepotencia.” I am not sure you use that concept in English. It means he feels inferior, so he tries to act superior.
We must wake up to this situation. We must be clear about this.
When a male exhibits an overbearing attitude to anyone in a position he perceives as inferior to his, demanding complete subservience, this is a cover-up. He is avoiding his feminine traits and emphasizing strong masculine ones. The base of this machismo is an inferiority complex.
Ultimately, we all have female and male energy, you know? We need to see this. If we do not, it is because we are not loving ourselves.
In my opinion, men are especially afraid of seeing this. That is why they try to show their superiority by hiding their kindness, their so-called female aspect. This is because, when you have that kind of mentality, showing kindness is a sign of weakness. Perhaps therefore there are wars. They must conquer others.
In all fairness, my intention is not to demonize men or male attributes. Rather, I am emphasizing the harmful effects of certain traditional masculine ideal behaviors such as dominance and competition.
What is your opinion?